From the Therapist’s Chair: The Difference Between Solitude and Loneliness
In the middle of a cold Toronto winter, we spend a lot of time indoors and, often, a lot of time alone. In my practice, I frequently hear people struggle to figure out if they are enjoying their own company or if they are slipping into a state of loneliness.
Noticing the Mid-Winter Wall: Winter Fatigue & Nervous System Capacity
For many of us in the Junction, February can be the hardest month. The novelty of winter has often faded, the wind feels a bit sharper, and we might find ourselves hitting a metaphorical wall.
While the instinct is often to "push through," we might find that fighting our capacity only leads to more exhaustion. At interocare, we often explore what happens when we listen to that "wall" instead of trying to climb it.
Reflections on a Month of Integration: Moving from “New Year Pressure” to Steady Integration
We’ve made it through the first month of the year. In the therapy room, January is often a month of high intensity; lots of “shoulds” and a heavy push for change. But as we reach the final days, the conversation usually shifts from “How do I change?” to “How do I actually live with what I’ve learned?”
This is the process of Integration. It’s the stage where the new tools and insights you’ve gathered start to settle into your actual, physical life.
Hibernation Together: How to Support Your Relationship During the Winter Months
By late January, the “new year” energy often fades, replaced by the reality of a long Canadian winter. Just as our individual systems slow down, our relationships can enter a period of seasonal hibernation. Without noticing this shift, it’s easy to mistake low energy or irritability for a relational problem.
In couples therapy, both in-person in Toronto’s Junction neighbourhood and virtually across Canada, we explore how to navigate this period with flexibility. Supporting each other through the darker months isn’t about “fixing winter”; it’s about creating a shared space that feels safe, supportive, and restorative.
What Does Being "Gentle With Your System" Actually Mean?
"Be gentle with yourself" is a phrase that gets tossed around a lot in the mental health world. It often sounds like a soft, "nice to have" sentiment—something we say when someone is having a hard day.
Wintering: Practical Ways to Support Your System in the Low-Light Season
In Canada, January isn't just a month on the calendar; it is a physical experience. The shorter days, the lack of sunlight, and the biting cold aren't just inconveniences—they have a direct impact on your biology. When the environment slows down, your nervous system often follows suit.
The Myth of the "Fresh Start" (And Why We Love the Expression)
"Clean slate." "Fresh start." "New year, new me."
We hear these phrases everywhere in January, and there’s a reason we love them. The idea of a fresh start feels like a deep exhale. It offers us a momentary relief from the weight of our history, our mistakes, and the parts of ourselves we struggle with. It’s a psychological "reset button" that promises we can leave the heavy stuff behind.
Tending to What Came Up: Balancing the Past with Your Future
By mid-January, the initial rush of the new year often slows down, and the "dust" from the holidays finally begins to settle. This is usually when we start to notice the emotional residue—the lingering tension from a family comment, the fatigue from over-extending ourselves, or the old patterns that surfaced during the break.
Why Our Systems Resist Change: The Science of Staying
The first week of January usually comes with a lot of pressure to "change everything." But by the second week, many of us feel a familiar pull back toward our old habits. Often, we label this as a lack of willpower, but the reality is much more scientific: your body has a biological preference for what is familiar.
In therapy, we look at this through the lens of homeostasis. Your nervous system interprets "familiar" as "safe," even if that familiar pattern is actually painful or exhausting.
Making the Most of Benefit Rollovers: Planning Your Year in Therapy
Planning your year in therapy isn’t just about the numbers; it’s about making sure you have a reliable space to land before life gets overwhelming. It’s a way to ensure you have the support you need to stay grounded all year long. Instead of waiting for a crisis to book a session, consider these three practical steps to align therapy with the actual rhythm of your life….